We recently read The Appeal by John Grisham for my book discussion group. Someone in our group was unable to pick the book up for themselves and Jennifer S. generously offered to send them her copy. I thought that was awfully nice of her. I, on the other hand, guard my books like a mother bear with her cubs. I can think of four different times that I have ever loaned out my books.
The first time was in high school when I loaned a girl my entire collection of Christopher Pike books. When did I get them back? Hmmm. I think it was about two or three years after graduation and I had to harass her a bit to get them back and then they weren't all there. By this time, I didn't even care to read them anymore but it was the principle of the thing. I don't even have any idea what I did with them when I got them back, lmao.
The next loan was a series of sci-fi fantasy books that I loaned to a certain family member. Never did see those books again.
Then, I loaned some of my Nora Roberts hard covers to another family member. Those books are lost to me forever too I suppose.
The last time, Odd Thomas by Dean Koontz, one of my all time favorite books, was "loaned" to a friend without my permission. She lost it, I had a cow, she found it, and I was pretty mad.
See? I hold onto my books. I consider them a collection and I feel protective of them. If they were a collection of (geez, what do people collect these days?) coins! a coin collection, would you expect people to casually loan them out? Anyway, I think if we ever had a house fire and I lost my books, I'd probably have to be committed and medicated. The only books that I don't feel an attachment to are my romances. I used to read romances like it was going out of style. Most of those books, with the exception of the ones that were sentimental for me, I traded for other novels. I sort of feel like I outgrew romances, no offense to anyone. And I also resell most of my text books. I keep the ones that were from Lit classes and writing classes that I'll use again as references.
Maybe I'm a bit obsessive. Umm. Notice the title of this blog, heheh. I LOVE books. The more I have the better. More book shelves would be nice too since some of my books are in boxes in my bedroom closet and I like to have them out and about. Certainly I can't be the only one that feels this way at least to some extent. I'd seriously loan my books to friends if I ever thought I'd get them back but history shows that people aren't too committed to returning books to me. This is another reason why I don't like to borrow books for myself. I like to HAVE them. I'm the same way about movies. I like to own the DVD's which is why I never got on the DVD ripping and burning bandwagon. But that's a whole other obsession.
So, how does everyone else feel about their libraries? Am I the only stingy reader out there?
Yes, I think you are nuts. But I always thought that and that is before I knew about your book issues.
ReplyDeleteI only "lend" things I know I won't be too upset over if I never see again. If I get them back cool, if not, I won't cry over it. However, when I borrow something, I make sure they get it back. I did lend a book I hadn't read yet to my friend Jo Anna, but she gave it back so it was fine.
Finally, I only save books I really liked and might actually read again. I just don't have the room to save every one. I did not like The Appeal, so off it went. I hope she enjoys it and maybe she can pass it on to someone else.
I think for me, it just depends on who it is. I let a co-worker borrow most of mine but she is good about giving them back promptly. I've loaned my mom a couple that she, in turn, passed on to my aunt and then I never saw them again. If they don't leave my mother's hands then she gives them back. Another person I worked with never returned a book I loaned and it was a first edition that I wanted to keep. I don't know why I never asked for it back at the time but we moved and that was that.
ReplyDeleteI have learned to NOT "Loan" a book. It never comes back, and the person I loan it to, most times doesn't even read it. My husband and I are addicted to going to a book store almost every weekend and buying books. I read most all of mine and our house is really overrun with them. Just ran across your blog through over 50 bloggers. I am Ageing Wisdom on the list, and have a book blog also. I just started blogging in December of this year and love it. I will especially enjoy your blog because we have the book obsession in common. Nice to meet you...will check back often. Come and visit me too! Have a Great Day!
ReplyDeleteJennifer~~Pot calling kettle black. ;)
ReplyDeletePam~~I can't believe you loaned out a first addition!! I'd be so upset that I didn't get it back.
BB~~First off, thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. Secondly, my husband and I are the same way with book stores. It's a nice thing to have in common with your husband.
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Ha ha! Bloggers Over 50? Either she came from my mom's blog or you're a lot older than you let on! My mom joined the bloggers over 50 list today.
ReplyDeleteSome days I feel 50. Does that count?
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